Comments on: Stop Perpetuating Harmful Stereotypes! http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/ Wed, 02 Jun 2010 12:48:38 +0000 hourly 1 By: Tami http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/comment-page-1/#comment-1083 Tami Wed, 24 Oct 2007 12:10:15 +0000 http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/#comment-1083 I don't think it makes you a failure if you disagree with a quote. Isn't the point of In "Other" Words to challenge each other in our thinking, not pat each others' backs? But I have felt the same frustration as you at times when not in agreement with common thought, so I understand. We disagree on many facets of this issue. I could tell you precisely where, but I'm not sure it would matter much. I don't think we're going to change each other's minds. All I can say is my marriage is so precious to me I will protect it at all costs. That doesn't mean I don't trust my husband or he me. It doesn't make me uneducated (because I'm not). It doesn't make me puritanical (hey, my college girls call me Dr. Ruth!). It just means I don't want to take any chance of getting too attached to any other man. I know myself. Perhaps you have more mettle than I. I'm sure we could have a lively discussion about it all over lunch or coffee!! We have an interesting relationship, you and I, Hopeful Spirit. Lately it seems we disagree more than we agree, yet I feel free to be able to do so with you. I hope you feel the same without condemnation or judgment. Enjoy your day, friend. <em>Tami's last blog post..</em><a href='http://tamiboesiger.blogspot.com/2007/10/its-not-only-about-clothes.html' rel="nofollow">It's Not Only About the Clothes</a> I don’t think it makes you a failure if you disagree with a quote. Isn’t the point of In “Other” Words to challenge each other in our thinking, not pat each others’ backs? But I have felt the same frustration as you at times when not in agreement with common thought, so I understand.

We disagree on many facets of this issue. I could tell you precisely where, but I’m not sure it would matter much. I don’t think we’re going to change each other’s minds. All I can say is my marriage is so precious to me I will protect it at all costs. That doesn’t mean I don’t trust my husband or he me. It doesn’t make me uneducated (because I’m not). It doesn’t make me puritanical (hey, my college girls call me Dr. Ruth!). It just means I don’t want to take any chance of getting too attached to any other man. I know myself. Perhaps you have more mettle than I. I’m sure we could have a lively discussion about it all over lunch or coffee!!

We have an interesting relationship, you and I, Hopeful Spirit. Lately it seems we disagree more than we agree, yet I feel free to be able to do so with you. I hope you feel the same without condemnation or judgment. Enjoy your day, friend.

Tami’s last blog post..It’s Not Only About the Clothes

]]> By: Julie@Shanan Trail http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/comment-page-1/#comment-1075 Julie@Shanan Trail Tue, 23 Oct 2007 13:25:17 +0000 http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/#comment-1075 You are not a failure! I didn't like this weeks quote either. I too thought about women who have been raped being treated as if they had asked for it. I thought about my own past when I was in a marriage in which my ex-husband was not faithful and the advice I got from Christians to create an environment in which being home with me would hold more attraction than being at the bar with "other women." I will never impose upon my daughter (nor will I take upon myself ~ uh, again) the sins of another person. <em>Julie@Shanan Trail's last blog post..</em><a href='http://acceptancewithjoy.wordpress.com/2007/10/23/my-strongest-suit/' rel="nofollow">My Strongest Suit</a> You are not a failure! I didn’t like this weeks quote either. I too thought about women who have been raped being treated as if they had asked for it. I thought about my own past when I was in a marriage in which my ex-husband was not faithful and the advice I got from Christians to create an environment in which being home with me would hold more attraction than being at the bar with “other women.” I will never impose upon my daughter (nor will I take upon myself ~ uh, again) the sins of another person.

Julie@Shanan Trail’s last blog post..My Strongest Suit

]]> By: Marjo http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/comment-page-1/#comment-1074 Marjo Tue, 23 Oct 2007 10:34:50 +0000 http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/#comment-1074 :razz: I am a Counselor by profession. I am an Educator. I am a mother. And most importantly, I am a WOMAN. And like you, I find the quotation unfair. Responsibility is shared. Even in homes. We no longer teach our kids that the Father is the Provider and the Mother has to stay home all day tending the house and the kids and all the stuff the home is made of. And yes, like Lori said, we have to teach mutual responsibility, shared responsibility for all actions undertaken. Fault is not on man alone or victory is not on woman alone. The triumph of the universe falls upon our shoulders - man and woman alike. Hope to be reading more of your posts. Marjo <em>Marjo's last blog post..</em><a href='http://marjo-lifeinamirror.blogspot.com/2007/10/praise-of-woman.html' rel="nofollow">Praise of a Woman</a> :razz:

I am a Counselor by profession. I am an Educator. I am a mother. And most importantly, I am a WOMAN. And like you, I find the quotation unfair. Responsibility is shared. Even in homes. We no longer teach our kids that the Father is the Provider and the Mother has to stay home all day tending the house and the kids and all the stuff the home is made of. And yes, like Lori said, we have to teach mutual responsibility, shared responsibility for all actions undertaken. Fault is not on man alone or victory is not on woman alone. The triumph of the universe falls upon our shoulders — man and woman alike.

Hope to be reading more of your posts.

Marjo

Marjo’s last blog post..Praise of a Woman

]]> By: lori@allyouhavetogive http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/comment-page-1/#comment-1073 lori@allyouhavetogive Tue, 23 Oct 2007 09:47:20 +0000 http://www.hopefulspirit.com/2007/10/23/stop-harmful-stereotypes/#comment-1073 that is why I love Tuesday, everyone has something to say about it! I read your post and while I agree that women are not solely responsible for what others think of them, they are responsible for THEMSLEVES and their character. I am raising BOTH boys and girls and I want them to take equal accountability for themselves, and to help and encourage each other on their walk in faith.... I am glad you put your heart out there, that is what Tuesday is for. Peace, and thank you for sharing. Lori that is why I love Tuesday, everyone has something to say about it! I read your post and while I agree that women are not solely responsible for what others think of them, they are responsible for THEMSLEVES and their character. I am raising BOTH boys and girls and I want them to take equal accountability for themselves, and to help and encourage each other on their walk in faith.…
I am glad you put your heart out there, that is what Tuesday is for.
Peace, and thank you for sharing.
Lori

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